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- The age at which a person may legally consent to sexual relations.
Sex with someone below the age of consent is statutory rape.
There may be more than one age of consent in your region.
Read more about
age of consent around the world on Wikipedia.
Anorgasmia / Inorgasmia
- Inability to reach orgasm,
or orgasm delayed by 30 minutes or more.
- A condition causing discomfort in the
male pelvic area due to sexual arousal going unrelieved by ejaculation.
The ordinary cure is to masturbate. If not relieved by ejaculation,
the congestion will go away within a few hours.
- See: Pre-cum
Circumcision
- Surgical removal of the foreskin
mainly as part of religious rituals.
When done on children it is considered a form of child abuse, unless for medical reasons.
- A semi-archaic word referring to the peak of a
female's sexual arousal.
Before Masters and Johnson established in the 1970s
that women have orgasms very similar to men,
the word orgasm was used exclusively to describe male sexual response.
- The primary female sex organ and the only human organ whose only function is sexual.
Cowper's fluid
- See: Pre-cum
Cunnilingus
- See: Oral Sex
Dental dam
- A sheet of latex used to protect against sexually transmitted diseases during cunnilingus.
They are so called because of their use in dental practice to keep
fluids from the mouth from contaminating the tooth being repaired.
Different-sex relationship
- Different-sex relationship is a relationship of people of two different sexes.
This term is preferred over "opposite sex",
which should be avoided as it is based on the wrong assumption that there are only
two possible sexes and that they are immutable.
Dildo
- A penis-shaped object used by many women to masturbate.
Men also use it to stimulate the prostate via the anus which may have some health benefits
and can lead to stronger orgasms.
Ejaculation
- The expulsion of semen through the penis, generally at the point of orgasm, is separate from orgasm.
You can have orgasms without ejaculations, like during wet foreplay.
It depends how skillful you can use your
PC muscle.
Age, genetic features, and other factors can affect the volume and distance of ejaculation. In general, younger males tend to have more forceful ejaculations, while the average volume of ejaculate is roughly 2–5 cubic centimeters, 2–5 milliliters (ml) of semen, which is up to the volume of a teaspoon.
The volume you ejaculate can affect how far it travels. Larger volumes may also create the illusion that ejaculate travels further than it does. Factors such as strengthening the pelvic floor, increasing the time between ejaculations, and engaging in moderate exercise can lead to larger volumes of ejaculate.
You can ejaculate again as soon as you can feel arousal after sex or masturbation. So, the main factor that determines how often you can ejaculate is how quickly you regain interest in sex after your orgasm.
Some men can also ejaculate more than once in a few minutes. Others may be able to ejaculate multiple times in a single session after some rest. During a marathon masturbation or sex session, you may be able to ejaculate more. However, you should stop if you begin to experience pain. When you ejaculate multiple times in a short period, your ejaculate volume may decrease.
- Inability of a man to get an erect penis in a timely manner with proper stimulation.
If a man is completely unable to erect, it is called impotence.
Often it is just psychological, like stress.
With much tender loving care and warm water you may get it up.
Erection
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The penis swells and rises up as a result of erotic stimulation, either through touch, maybe in wet clothes,
or seeing someone attractive.
This begins to feel good with anticipation of more intense fun.
As you get more excited your balls will rise up close and your penis gets harder, known as a "hard-on".
- To jack off or masturbate.
"Man, I was fapping last night and totally jizzed all over my hands."
Fellatio
- See: Oral Sex
Fetish
- An accessory you need to reach orgasm.
Without a fetish it won't work.
For some this may be wet clothing.
For others wet clothes are just a nice stimulant.
Either way, wet clothes are a harmless fetish you can enjoy as you please.
- Sexual activity, such as manual manipulation of
the genitals, leading up to intercourse. When the same activity is
done not as a prelude to intercourse, it's called petting.
This is great fun with your friend(s) in a pool or lake, dressed in soft, loose fitting clothes.
- The hood of the penis.
In uncircumcised men, it covers most of the head of the penis when the penis is not erect.
In circumcised men, what remains of the foreskin is collapsed around
the bottom of the head. See also: Circumcision.
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These are friends with whom you are sexually open and enjoy intimate contact.
You share your bath, bed, pleasure, orgasms and ejaculations.
These beautiful and accepting relationships are also called "skinships".
Frottage
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Sexual rubbing, form of non-penetrative sex.
"Dry Humping" or any non-penetration body grinding done with or without clothes in public or in private.
Works great in soft nylon clothes, like anoraks or ponchos, as the nylon on nylon slides very well.
Frot (slang for frottage; ult. from the French verb "frotter", "to rub") is a non-penetrative form of male-on-male sexual activity that usually involves direct penis-to-penis contact. The term was popularized by gay male activists who disparaged the practice of anal sex, but has since evolved to encompass a variety of preferences, including wet clothes. Owing to its non-penetrative character, Frot has the safe sex advantage of minimizing the transmission risk for HIV/AIDS.
Gender Fluid / Gender Queer
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A gender identity which refers to a gender that varies over time.
A Gender Fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, neutrois,
or any other non-binary identity, or some combination of identities.
Being Gender Fluid has nothing to do with which set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation.
Gender Fluid is a gender identity best described as a dynamic mix of boy and girl. A person who is Gender Fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more boy some days, and more girl other days.
"No, I'm not a boy, and I'm not a girl either. I am gender fluid."
This is often expressed in a more creative dress sense, like skirts for men or long capes with room to play.
- See: Erectile Dysfunction
- Exercises practiced to strengthen the
Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle.
Many sexual health practitioners recommend Kegel exercises to strengthen it,
whereby you tighten the muscle, hold for 10-15 seconds, release, and repeat.
- The sex drive, and especially the energy it creates.
Manual Intercourse
-
Stimulation of the genitals of one person by the hands of another person.
This safe activity often happens during sleep-overs where you share bath and bed.
See also: Mutual Masturbation
- Stimulation of ones's own genitals for the
purpose of advancing sexual arousal. Most people masturbate until they
have an orgasm and ejaculate.
Men who have Sex with Men (MSM)
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also known as males who have sex with males,
are men who engage in sexual activity with other men,
regardless of how they identify themselves;
many do not sexually identify as gay, homosexual or bisexual.
- When a man has an orgasm
but does not ejaculate or lose his erection
and keeps having intercourse or masturbating until he has one or more additional orgasms and finally ejaculates.
- Two or more people masturbating together, touching only their own genitals.
If they are touching each other's genitals, it is manual intercourse.
Nocturnal Emission / Wet Dream
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An orgasm with ejaculation that happens to a man while he is sleeping.
Usually called a wet dream.
It is nature's way for clearing out stale semen and keeping your parts healthy.
Can be avoided by sex or masturbation before going to sleep.
Oral Sex
- Sexual intercourse consisting of contact
between the mouth of one person and the genitals of another.
When oral sex is enjoyed on a man, it is called fellatio.
When oral sex is done on a woman, it is called cunnilingus.
- The peak of sexual arousal,
resulting in a series of muscular contractions in both men and women,
and often leads to ejaculation in men.
When a man has masturbated or engaged in intercourse for a period of time,
he has a sudden rush of sexual feeling, usually followed by a burst of fluid.
This is his orgasm with ejaculatipon,
called "coming" or "cumming".
See also: Sexual Response.
- Sexual arousal in response to unusual stimuli,
such as wet clothes, showers, or watching someone brush their teeth.
- See: Foreplay
Point of ejaculatory inevitability
- The moment during sexual stimulation
when a man will proceed to ejaculate even if the stimulation stops altogether.
This "point of no return" is sometimes apparent to men
who are discovered masturbating and stop, but ejaculate anyway.
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Also called Cowper's fluid (after the gland that produces it),
this clear fluid is released during sexual arousal.
It serves to neutralize traces of urine that may remain in the urethra.
The other purpose is lubrication so your penis doesn't get sore when you rub it for a while. Some boys ooze so much pre-cum that is gets their pants quite wet. It is a very pleasant feeling when pre-cum is relased.
- Face-down position during erotic play or swimming in clothes.
See also: supine
- One of the principal components of semen, it gives semen its distinctive smell and color.
- A key muscle located in the
pelvic region that controls sexual function in both men and women.
It is the muscle you tighten when you stop the flow of pee.
See also: Kegels.
Refractory Period
- The time after ejaculating during
which a man is unable to have an erection.
In teenagers, this period might be a minute or two.
In your 20s, it is more typically 20-30 minutes.
In your 80s, the refractory period might last days.
It also depends how good your nutrition and hydration is.
- The white fluid a man ejaculates as a result of masturbation or sexual intercourse.
It is principally comprised of seminal fluid, sperm, prostate fluid, and bulbourethral fluid.
- Flushing of the skin of the head and upper body after orgasm.
Often comes with a big happy smile.
Generally goes away within a few minutes.
Sexual intercourse
- Any sexual act involving the genitals of one person and the genitals, mouth, or anus of another person.
Some people use a narrower definition encompassing only the act of inserting a penis into a vagina or anus.
Avoid anal intercourse for safer sex.
- There are four stages of sexual response: arousal, plateau,
orgasm, and resolution.
The arousal stage lasts the longest. In men, it
starts with the erection. Plateau is the feeling that one will orgasm
and/or ejaculate if stimulation continues. It lasts anywhere from
seconds to one minute. Orgasm only lasts for about eight seconds.
Resolution is the period from when the orgasm ends until the body
returns to equilibrium, which is the state of not being aroused.
- The male reproductive cell.
About 350 million are included in every ejaculation.
The fluid that carries sperm is called semen.
- Sexual relations with a person who is not old enough to consent.
It can be a crime even if the person tells you they are of legal age.
See also: Age of consent.
Supine
- Face-up position during erotic play,
while swimming on your back, or relaxing in your bath.
See also: prone
Vagina
- The female organ of copulation.
The vagina is an internal organ which cannot be seen on the outside.
A female's visible private parts should be called the vulva.
Vasocongestion
- A condition causing discomfort in the
male pelvic area due to sexual arousal going unrelieved by ejaculation.
The best cure is to masturbate.
If not relieved by ejaculation, the congestion will go away within a few hours.
Vibrator
- An electrical device used by many women and some men to masturbate.
Virgin
- A person who has never had sexual intercourse.
Vulva
- The external sex organs of the female, comprising
the labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, and clitoral hood.
Mistakenly called the vagina by some.
Wet dream
- See: Nocturnal emission.